In a time where independence often dominates conversations, women are increasingly reclaiming traditionally ‘girly’ activities – sleepovers, brunches, cosy nights in – as essential rituals of connection and self-expression. Far from being silly and idle, these gatherings serve as powerful spaces for women to unwind, connect and embrace femininity in its many forms.
From doing each other’s hair, dressing up for drinks, to chatting late into the night, these traditions tap into a sense of sisterhood that’s especially valued today. In a society that often snubs ‘girly’ pastimes, embracing these activities is an act of resistance and pride, and women can reclaim girlhood from judgement and celebrate it as a source of strength. There’s a shared pride in female friendships and a refusal to see femininity as ‘less than’.
Sweet treats and walks with a coffee (a personal favourite) offer additional ways to socialise and break from life’s struggles, allowing for intimate debriefs and shared experiences. Especially for those of us in university, these moments create a little familial feeling away from home, reinforcing the importance of girlhood and connection during transitional periods.
Media and shows like Sex and the City capture the beauty of feminine friendship, portraying women who support, uplift, and empower one another without apology or judgment. From Carrie and the gang’s endless brunches to their heartfelt talks, clearly, these moments are about more than just socialising – they’re about truly being seen and understood.
For women today, these feminine traditions aren’t just nostalgic rituals – they’re opportunities to tap into shared feminine energy. By embracing them, women affirm that femininity is powerful and worthy of celebration. So, next time you’re gathered with your girls, know you’re taking part in a tradition that uplifts, strengthens, and redefines what it means to ‘’just have fun’’.
Words by Wiktoria Alicja Gabara
Femininity, unfairly linked to stereotypes of weakness or superficiality, is often seen as “too girly”—as if enjoying beauty, sensitivity or even specific colours were something to avoid. Growing up, many girls rejected these labels as a defence against outdated ideas. But as we mature, we begin to reclaim and embrace these ‘girly’ traditions as empowering ways to connect with ourselves and other women.
For me, femininity is about self-love. Whether you’re pampering yourself or bonding in sisterhood, these moments can help you tap into your feminine energy. Simple self-care rituals like skincare routines, spa treatments or journalling are excellent places to start if you want to nurture your body, mind and spirit.
Personally, journalling and using essential oils have become relaxing ways to tune into my needs and celebrate my well-being in ways that are both effective and low-cost. Fashion is another way to engage with your feminine side. Experimenting with different styles, whether gothic or cottage-core, helps boost self-confidence to freely discover your unique feminine aesthetic. I’ve found Pinterest and Combyne to be great tools for trying new looks before committing, as they’ve helped me discover my expression with feminine streetwear and dark academia.
From my experience, university societies are also great for creating supportive spaces where girls can build a sense of sisterhood through shared interests and experiences. Whether it’s through events or just chatting afterwards, these moments form friendly opportunities to uplift and empower one another. For example, the anime society has become a lovely space where I can resonate with other girls about aspects of femininity I’ve never been able to share before, making me feel grateful and heard within our little community.
Ultimately, embracing femininity is about honouring and expressing yourself without worrying about what others think. It’s not narcissism; it’s self-love.
Words by Alanah Blayney
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