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What To Do On THOSE Days.

We all have them.

“One of those days”

Even with the lack of a proper adjective, everyone can relate to how you feel during those days. Personally, I find it comforting to know that I am not the only person who lies in bed eating Oreos and watching the first season of  Friends’ for the ninetieth time. With this in mind, I thought that knowing what other people do when they feel this way might help us all. Not only is it nice to know we are not alone but it can never hurt to learn from one another.

Distractions and Self Care.

Words by Katie Waits

Sometimes, life becomes a bit overwhelming and it can feel like everything is happening all at once. On days like these, I have learned that it is okay to switch off group chats, have an extra cup of tea, and focus on clearing my head a bit. Particularly in the lead up to exam season, I let myself have at least a day to take a step back from all things stressful.

Personally, I find that heading to a cosy little coffee shop and having cake with tea works wonders if I’m in a low mood. I found myself doing that quite often during my first two weeks at university. When the combination of missing people and having to take in a lot of new information left me feeling incredibly drained. 

Allowing myself some time to read a few pages of a book that I’ve been trying to get through also makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something. Sitting down to watch a film with my parents, visiting my best friend for a weekend, or walking along a beach and breathing in the sea air distracts from the stress and complications life brings from time to time.

Setting yourself goals or making plans can be a really great way to break free of a malaise. In doing this you are creating your own light at the end of the tunnel.

Small Goals and Victories.

Words by Ellie Hutchings

Everyone has ‘those’ days. It’s normal, it’s human, but I often find that if I don’t do something about it, I’ll end up in a week-long slump that becomes increasingly harder to get out of.

The first thing I do when I feel a down day coming is to make a list of any small jobs that need doing. Nothing too strenuous; things like putting on a wash, doing a food shop or picking up a parcel. Minor tasks that may have been on my mind for a couple of days. I’ve found that keeping myself on the go distracts me from my mood and I’ll always feel much better having been productive.

Wallowing in self-pity is one of the worst things you can do. However, if you’re like me and can hardly bear the thought of getting out of bed when you’re feeling down, then I’d recommend starting the day with exercise. The idea may seem far-fetched when you feel sorry for yourself but it’s common knowledge that exercising releases endorphins. Twenty minutes walking on the treadmill is enough. The same goes if you’re making a list of jobs. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t finish it. At least you’ve achieved something! You’ll probably find that if the day starts off productive, you’ve got the ball rolling and it’s as good as turned around already.

Normal… To an Extent

It’s important to remember that it is perfectly ok to have these days. Sometimes they can be a sign that we do need a break. The best thing you can do for yourself is to switch off your body and your brain for twenty-four hours. University is difficult. There is a reason it is not for everyone and there is a reason that there are entry requirements. Do not beat yourself up if it gets on top of you and you need a reboot. Having said this, if you find yourself having bad days more and more often then you may need to seek help. There is no harm in reaching out to your friends, family or a professional if you believe you are struggling. As always, the university services can be found on:

Email: wellbeingandcounselling@cardiff.ac.uk

Phone: +44 (0)29 2087 4844

I hope that we have been able to prove to you that having ‘one of THOSE days’ is neither abnormal nor a condemnation of your day. You can take steps to turn it around or you can accept that you just need to let yourself do nothing in order to increase productivity later.

 

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