By Craig Strachan
Porn can be a maze of so many unreliable truths and urban myths towards sex. The howling, the non-existent pubic hair, and of course the raw sexual energy of the plumbing and pizza delivery industries. Whilst many of these might become obvious to us later in life, a lot of us discover porn from an early age of adolescence where we wouldnÔÇÖt know any of these tropes were anything but true.
One of these that sometimes gets swept under the casting couch, is penis size. Stemming from the toxic masculine failures of playgrounds and PE changing rooms, those with penises get told that anything but a dead straight 9-inch circumcised member makes you weird. Or it makes you too small, or it somehow makes you an inferior person. The question of fear; ÔÇ£Does size matter?ÔÇØ when answered by a 14-year-old boy at school is always, ÔÇ£yesÔÇØ and if you canÔÇÖt meet that expectation, youÔÇÖre a joke.
But the fact that this very question exists and stays around proves to us behind the masculine fa├ºade itÔÇÖs all false rumour masked in bravado. Porn star penises are not accurate portrayals of us all; and itÔÇÖs ok that many of us arenÔÇÖt like that. For one, a lot of these penises arenÔÇÖt real. Penis enlargement surgery is common practice in an industry that benefits the larger size. But also, those penises never have the variety so common in life.
‘Porn star penises are not accurate portrayals of us all; and itÔÇÖs ok that many of us arenÔÇÖt like that. For one, a lot of these penises arenÔÇÖt real’
For one theyÔÇÖre all straight as rulers. Most guys will lean one way or another, a hook left or right. And thatÔÇÖs ok, and often can be really good for sexual pleasure depending on your partner. The only caution IÔÇÖd give is know your limits, if your penis points in a certain direction donÔÇÖt attempt a position youÔÇÖve seen on Pornhub thatÔÇÖs going to damage yourself. Sex should be fun and safe. DonÔÇÖt snap any banjo strings unless youÔÇÖre in a country band.
Another misnomer about your member is that in porn theyÔÇÖre always hard, always erect. Firstly, we all have different bodies, and different kinks, so in any sexual encounter you might not be turned on straight away. And also, being more erect doesnÔÇÖt mean that youÔÇÖre necessarily more sexually attracted at that point than if youÔÇÖre softer. ItÔÇÖs normal to have a loose erection during sex. And letÔÇÖs be honest we all have different tolerances to alcohol, so if youÔÇÖre drinking more or less that can affect your performance, and thatÔÇÖs ok. ItÔÇÖs not a slight on you or the person youÔÇÖre sleeping with. Maybe itÔÇÖs to do with those few extra shots of tequila you did for ÔÇÿDutch courageÔÇÖ at the bar, weÔÇÖve all been there.
‘ItÔÇÖs normal to have a loose erection during sex…maybe itÔÇÖs to do with those few extra shots of tequila you did for ÔÇÿDutch courageÔÇÖ at the bar, weÔÇÖve all been there’
Then we get to the growers and showers. Porn tells us that people are either naturally big or theyÔÇÖre naturally small. It is not that simple. Some have smaller penises when flaccid that grow huge amounts and some have larger ones that wonÔÇÖt change lots; neither is better or worse than the other. The global average is a 5.5 inch erect penis. But that is not the be-all-and-end-all of size. A lot of this comes down to your sexual partners preferences. A lot of the time girth can be more important than length, or the shape or even down to simply being more attracted to that person. If the two of you get on and enjoy each otherÔÇÖs chemistry, the sex stuff can very easily all fall into place. Get to know them, in fact penetrative sex for a lot of people with vaginas isnÔÇÖt what does it for them. Communication will clear up all the false narratives weÔÇÖve all seen in porn.
Pubic hair is a real weird one, for penises. This is how messed up porn has made us. When youÔÇÖre going through puberty itÔÇÖs almost a race; who will grow the first hairs down there. To get there first would make you a bigger man, an alpha-male or a proper lad. But then as you hit your late teens porn plays us an uno reverse card. Clean shaven as the way to go. Somehow, we get it warped in our heads that more hair is gross, that itÔÇÖs unsanitary or itÔÇÖs the sign of someone without an active sex life. This couldnÔÇÖt be further from the truth. Pubic hair after all, is natural. Yes, you should make sure itÔÇÖs washed the same way you wash any other body part, but it can also help safe sex. It acts as a cushion that makes sex more comfortable and reduces chaffing or even at times the risk of transmitting STIÔÇÖs.
Again, check with your partner. If youÔÇÖre on the same page, you canÔÇÖt go wrong. And for god sakeÔÇÖs donÔÇÖ take all your sex tips from Brazzers. Your academic source should not be a video starting with a few drumbeats and a symbol crash into Pornhub.
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