Agony Aunt: March Q&A

I’m interested in starting up a society, but I’m a second year and it seems pointless to start anything this semester. I feel like it will be really popular, but the people that I live with aren’t really my target audience so I feel a bit delusional? I don’t know what it is. I feel that I’ve started thinking too late to make any sort of impact and I don’t know how to get the word out and start it up AND I don’t feel like I’m qualified or how it will be funded. Should I bother or just leave it? The idea is for a Zumba society. HELP!


Better late than never is one of my favourite sayings. You should definitely bother to set up a Zumba society. I know I would join! I agree with you that it will be really popular. Zumba isn’t for everyone and you never know your flatmates might actually be interested in trying out Zumba. You’ve got the entirety of third year to work on building awareness of the society. You can ask other societies to share on their social media pages, advertise on student media and put posters up around when the society is all set up. As for the funding, the VP Societies & Volunteering Officer can give you all the advice you need. You’ll never know if you don’t try. Just think, if the society is successful you would have left a legacy behind!


I am still in love with my ex and I know she loves me. We are struck. We have clashing personalities but we get along so well. In the long run, I know we won’t last. Not sure what to do.

You have answered your own question. If you know it won’t work in the long run, you can’t force it. Having differences in a relationship is necessary, but if you clash to much there will be a strain on the relationship in the long run, which you have acknowledged. You should sit down face-to-face with your ex and talk about your feelings and what you have told me. There is a possibility of having a friendship with your ex. You are adults and you are mature enough to remain friends if you both want to. ‘There are plenty of fish in the sea’ is a phrase that comes to mind with this one.


I’m in my overdraft and don’t have the best paying job (or in regards to hours). How best should I manage my (lacking) finance?

Doing small changes will add up over time. By taking small cutbacks at step at a time you will be able see a difference with your finances overall. Options are to have a look around and see if there are jobs out there with better pay and/or better hours for you. You can meet with the money and advice team about what to do next as everyone’s financial situation differs from each other.


How do I find my ‘calling’ in life? I have no idea what I want to do after university and I am panicking. I don’t want to be unemployed after studying but I don’t want to have to do a job I’m not interested in.


Look next to your bedside table, write out a bucket list, and check out the blogs you’re most interested in. Whatever excites you captivates you and that’s a good place to start. Write out a few responses to the question, ‘What is my calling?’ Write the answers down on paper and do not stop or edit what you’ve written until you can’t think of anything else to write down. By doing this your calling will make itself known to you. You might even cry after you’ve completed this task. That certainly isn’t a bad thing and might be the sign you’re looking for. Reflect on the past and acknowledge what you’ve learned from your experiences. Ask what others think, they might notice a passion of yours which might not come straight to your head when thinking about your future. Most importantly, use your values as a guide. These qualities make you special, they’re who you really are.